Flirting in Class Tips: 101

By: Kelly Palecek, E23 Reporter

Have you ever had a crush on someone in your class but just can’t seem to find a way to talk to them or even to get them to notice you? Well guess what, you are not alone! Many times we see someone who draws our attention but we can’t help being a little nervous or tongue tied around him or her. This is a chronic issue for many students here at the University of Missouri and I have asked a couple of students for some tips in order to deal with this problem. I asked a couple of University of Missouri women who have found themselves in similar positions how they combat this problem. Here are some tips for all of you secretly crushing hard girls out there.

1) Definitely sit next to them whether in a small classroom or a lecture hall; make yourself noticed.

2) If it’s in a lecture hall- casually ask them a question pertaining to the class and move from there to try to find something in common.

3) If it’s in a small class- sit next to them and do close to the same thing and ask for the notes from the previous class. This way you can offer up your email and maybe get his number in case he ever needs the notes in the future.

4) Always offer to help pertaining to the class.

5) Ask to borrow stuff like pens/paper.

6) Make a couple funny side comments to them and try to make them laugh

7) Look at them to be partners during a group activity. Exercise caution though if one of his buddies so happens to be in the same class and asks him first.

8) If you get to class after him, brush against him when you walk pass him or try to create some sort of small physical contact.

9) As the semester goes on mention something you might have in common that you have noticed such as Greek life or sports.

10) Definitely remain confident, you are awesome don’t sweat it.

11) Even though they are guys, don’t hold back on the compliments. Even something as simple as “Oh, I really like your phone case” can go a long way and maybe even spark a conversation.

Of course, it also helps to have a guy’s perspective on the matter so I asked lady-killer freshman Patrick Nolan what he notices if a girl is trying to get his attention. He says, “I would know if a girl is flirting with me if she is very friendly and asking questions that make her sound interested in me. Pretty much any interaction with me lets me know that she wants to get to know me.”

Don’t worry, I haven’t forgotten about the male species. It can be very nerve racking to approach a girl. Here are a few tips to work up to from a couple of University of Missouri men.

1) In a lecture hall, purposely drop something where only she could get it.

2) Wear a weird/funny piece of clothing as a conversation starter.

3) Say something about their computer background.

4) Say something sarcastic and witty about the class.

5) Compliment her; let her know you notice her.

6) Ask something about last class.

7) Throw a subtle side-glance which maybe a small smile.

8) Be confident but not intimidating.

9) Try not to come off too strong; patience is key. Try and be her friend first.

10) Pay attention during class, girls like a smart guy.

11) Smell nice and look presentable.

Of course, I wanted to know what a girl notices when a guy is trying to flirt with her. Here are some of freshman Brittany Rygiel’s thoughts. “If they just like give you a cute half smile when they’re talking to you that’s really cute. When they say your name that’s flirty cause when you add in someone’s name to something it sounds more personal and intimate. I definitely notice if he compliments me, even if it is something small. I have had a couple guys invite me to a party and get my number that way. I don’t mind. I like meeting new people.”

I hope these tips come in handy next time you see your crush in class. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there even if it is just small simple things. Remember, you have a whole semester with this person so don’t worry about having to jump right in, just breath and take baby steps. No one expects a Romeo and Juliet romance from one Biology lecture. Don’t forget to be yourself and smile. You might be surprised with what ends up happening!